A Dancer’s Farewell, Not as Choreographed

When Abi Stafford Lillo took her remaining curtsy very last drop after far more than two a long time at New York Metropolis Ballet, it seemed like a typical dancer retirement, with colleagues handing her bouquets as the audience applauded wildly.

But her smile that afternoon masked what had turn into a bitter dispute at the rear of the scenes concerning the ballerina and the corporation.

Ms. Lillo, 40, said she decided to leave simply because she felt she experienced been sidelined considering the fact that her estranged brother, Jonathan Stafford, became Metropolis Ballet’s creative director. Then, she said, she was slice from the opening night time forged of her remaining ballet, “Russian Seasons,” by its choreographer, Alexei Ratmansky. He advised her in a textual content that “the males had been struggling” to lover her — which she regarded “body shaming,” she explained in an job interview.

City Ballet officials countered that Ms. Lillo had been provided quite a few roles in recent many years that she had declined, and reported that Mr. Stafford had no say in her casting due to the fact his agreement prohibited him from choices involving both her or his wife, the dancer Brittany Pollack. They reported Ms. Lillo had been eradicated from the “Russian Seasons” opening not for the reason that of her body weight, but simply because of “issues with her endurance and with her power.”

The dispute presents a window into the elaborate, often fraught dynamics of Town Ballet, a close-knit organization in which family members, spouses and intimate partners generally share a workplace. And it is a reminder of the equilibrium ballet firms should obtain as they seek to transfer previous many years of unhealthy emphasis on the excess weight and system shape of dancers, whilst continuing to demand the energy, overall flexibility, athleticism and artistry that outline the art form.

City Ballet has long been something of a spouse and children affair. George Balanchine, its co-founder, was married to two of its main dancers. The spouse and son of Peter Martins, the company’s ballet master in chief for decades, were being both of those principal dancers underneath his leadership. And various pairs of siblings have danced in the organization with each other, like the Kirklands, the d’Amboises, the Fairchilds and the Angles.

The Staffords joined the ranks of City Ballet siblings, in the beginning finding out at the University of American Ballet, its affiliated academy, and then joining the organization. But they grew apart, even as they continued to operate together.

Increasing up in central Pennsylvania, Ms. Lillo was the initial in her loved ones to get started ballet, she mentioned in an job interview. She recalled remaining frustrated when her brother and sister followed her direct. “I preferred ballet to be my factor, even when I was 6,” she mentioned. “I was just often pretty resentful of them encroaching on my activity.”

In 2000, Mr. Martins employed her, at 17, to dance in the company’s corps de ballet after six weeks as an apprentice — an unusually swift marketing. As she established herself critics praised Ms. Lillo’s method, with a person composing that she “defines every single step with impressive clarity.” At other situations the evaluations ended up a lot more middling, with some critics suggesting her dancing was lacking depth.

Her connection with her brother, which had been potent, started to deteriorate. She explained that she had been offended on her 31st birthday when Mr. Stafford acquired engaged. “I was like, Okay, he’s basically seeking to make my birthday about him,” she reported.

In 2017, Mr. Martins, the company’s longtime leader, remaining after he became the matter of misconduct allegations, which he denied and which the firm later mentioned ended up not corroborated. Mr. Stafford took in excess of, to start with as interim leader and then as creative director, with Ms. Whelan as affiliate creative director. In an hard work to steer clear of conflicts, Ms. Whelan was supplied oversight of the casting and employment of Ms. Lillo and Ms. Pollack. But Ms. Lillo came to blame her brother for what she saw as fewer possibilities.

Mr. Stafford declined an job interview, but explained in a statement that Ms. Lillo experienced inspired him to grow to be a dancer and that he experienced been “saddened” by the breakdown of their connection, which he explained deteriorated following he was promoted to principal dancer. “I have created a lot of initiatives due to the fact then to reconnect, but our connection has under no circumstances been the exact,” he claimed.

Fewer than a calendar year just after Mr. Stafford was officially named creative director, Ms. Lillo went on a psychological well being go away. In an interview, she attributed the leave to the rift and her perception that she was being dismissed in casting choices.

It was in March 2020, just in advance of the pandemic halted live performances in New York for a calendar year and fifty percent, that she advised the business she wished to go away. She charged that immediately after Mr. Stafford took over she had been relegated to “understudy roles in the back again of the room,” as her lawyer, Leila Amineddoleh, wrote in a letter to the company.

She requested for three several years of severance pay, a release from her deal so she could dance in other places, and a solo curtain contact at her ultimate general performance.

In created responses to Ms. Lillo’s allegations, Kathleen McKenna, a law firm for Metropolis Ballet, turned down her declare that she experienced successfully been “demoted” immediately after her brother became inventive director, listing 13 ballets that she had been cast in because 2019, and noting that she could not execute in the course of spring of that year because she was hurt. Ms. McKenna wrote that Ms. Lillo experienced also declined some opportunities and then had long gone on leave.

“In connection with that selection, she confided in Ms. Whelan that she no for a longer period loved dancing but fairly loved ‘the law,’” Ms. McKenna wrote.

Ms. Lillo, who began courses at Fordham’s legislation college in 2018, acknowledged that she experienced declined to accomplish some roles simply because of accidents, her leave and other problems, but preserved that she was not receiving cast equitably with other principal dancers.

In an job interview she reported that she had grown annoyed following she asked Ms. Whelan to discover new roles, and was informed she was not suitable for them. “The 1 detail that she claimed to me that was really disturbing or upsetting was she said, ‘We’re making an attempt to do what is appropriate by the ballets.’” Ms. Lillo claimed she retorted, “What about the dancers?”

In an job interview, Ms. Whelan reported she experienced labored hard to discover Ms. Lillo roles.

“I never feel she was addressed unfairly,” Ms. Whelan reported. “I went out of my way to give her options.”

Very last drop, as Metropolis Ballet geared up to return to its theater at Lincoln Centre, Ms. Lillo designed programs to dance the ballet “Russian Seasons” for her farewell efficiency.

But soon after early rehearsals, its choreographer, Mr. Ratmansky, questioned for her to be slash from its opening night forged, Ms. Whelan stated. Ms. Whelan named her and gave her the information, Ms. Lillo recalled, telling her that Mr. Ratmansky did not consider she was “strong enough” or all set for the very first night time but that she could nonetheless dance it for her farewell effectiveness.

Ms. Lillo followed up with a text message to Ms. Whelan and Mr. Ratmansky, writing “I desire you experienced given me two more weeks prior to you built your decision” and incorporating that she was “continuing to perform and thrust,” in accordance to screenshots of the textual content messages.

“I am extremely sorry it hurt you,” Mr. Ratmansky replied. “I sense lousy about it. I am also sorry I didn’t handle to communicate to you.”

He went on: “But you should have an understanding of. There is a good deal of partnering in the piece and it ought to glimpse easy. The men have been battling.” (Mr. Ratmansky did not reply to requests for comment.)

Ms. Whelan mentioned that she was hardly ever instructed that the final decision was about Ms. Lillo’s body weight, and that she interpreted Mr. Ratmansky as saying Ms. Lillo was lacking the toughness and technical ability that female dancers have to have to make partnering look effortless.

But Ms. Lillo study that text as indicating that it was “about how my physique looked and not about how sturdy I was.”

“It’s only simply because I’m now saying it is system shaming that they are transforming the narrative,” she reported. Her lawyer wrote to the corporation that the final months of her ballet vocation prompted her “intense psychological distress” and requested for $200,000 in compensation in addition to the common exit shell out she experienced now been given. (Metropolis Ballet has not agreed to that demand from customers.)

Metropolis Ballet has spoken in modern many years of attempting to change the dialogue about excess weight and dancer’s bodies — and to go past a culture has occasionally appeared to prize thinness earlier mentioned other attributes, to the detriment of dancers’ actual physical and mental wellbeing.

The soloist Georgina Pazcoguin wrote in her 2021 memoir that her thighs were being criticized, driving her to get operation to remove fats from them. And Ms. Lillo stated Mr. Martins experienced as soon as criticized her weight and taken off her from a year.

Ms. Whelan claimed the enterprise has new protocols about bodyweight problems: a wellness director is to be involved in any conversations with a dancer, and dancers are to be offered entry to a nutritionist, physical treatment and mental overall health providers. “We have to take care of our dancers as human beings and with dignity,” she claimed, noting that she did not see the discussions about Ms. Lillo’s closing general performance as staying about fat.

City Ballet maintains that it labored to give Ms. Lillo the farewell that she wished but that she was not well prepared for that first performance, and noted that she had not attended firm lessons all through the pandemic. Ms. Lillo said that the lessons ended up not obligatory, and that she experienced properly trained at household and at the gymnasium.

Ms. Lillo was allowed to dance in “Russian Seasons” for her farewell efficiency, on Sept. 26. Mr. Ratmansky agreed to some changes in his choreography to “accommodate” Ms. Lillo’s skills, in accordance to City Ballet’s letter to Ms. Lillo’s attorney. Ms. Lillo stated that some lifts had been modified, but it experienced been her understanding that the changes ended up built due to the fact her partner was injured.

After her remaining curtain get in touch with for “Russian Seasons,” Ms. Lillo altered out of her costume and into a selfmade T-shirt. It read: “I survived NYCB.”